Alright, I'm in. I would've left this right alone but fuck, you people can carry on.
I'll start by saying that I don't give a fuck about grind, so didn't actually 'go' to this gig. I got wind of someone targeting my close friend and bandmate at the Hydey, so I did what a good mate should do and drove down to have some angry words.
As it turned out, Jim, Richard and the big bloke I forget the name and myself had a quiet chat in the carpark. Things were explained, it's sorted now; it doesn't involve anyone else. Anyone who keeps banging on about this particular incident is a scene whore trying to create a scandal out of fuck all, so fuck you.
Secondly, grind is all about being offensive, and pissing cunts off. I get it now, no problem.
However, just bear in mind that when you get off that stage, you aren't LORD CLIT-CUTTER or whatever, you're a regular Joe fucking Bloggs. Don't piss cunts off outside the context of your grind band, because you'll have no excuses to fall back on when they arc up. "It's just a joke" holds no weight in that circumstance.
Thirdly, going after an individual target, one who is you don't even fucking know, is fucked. I appreciate a good abo / irish / faggot / jew / woman joke, because these are jokes that make fun of stereotypes; these can be clever. I wouldn't get on stage and pay a particular someone out for being a kike, or a nigger, or a faggot, because although that you might find that funny, I guarantee you the feeling isn't mutual with the other party.
In such cases you should consider it a personal insult, so don't fucking cry when it gets taken personally.
