A few more random thoughts..
I think, maybe, for bands you have to decide where you want to go.
Are you happy with it being a 'hobby'? Play the occasional gig and maybe fund a cd/ep? If family and work commitments limit you, then this is your situation. Nothing wrong with it, but you wont get 'far' in the grand scheme of things and play to friends and a few die hards.
Do you want to make a career playing music? Best of luck to you, its not impossible but you might have to take a similar route to Damo and play in cover bands 3/4 nights a week. At least you'l be getting great at your chosen instrument, gaining valuable stage time to shake any stage fright and play a variety of different crowds and venues.
Is gaining national and international recognition a goal? Maybe getting an album contract? Again its not impossible. Allegiance, Alchemist (signed to relapse), iNFeCTeD (signed to Shock/Thrust), N.I.L (signed to Roadrunner). Promote yourself well and play the hell out of ALL shows regardless of the size of the crowd as you never know who is watching..
Also, guys if you have momentum RUN WITH IT or you will lose it. Your brand new cd is released: awesome. Promote it, send it out for review and plan some more gigs to give the new tracks airing.
Even if you're doing minimal stuff, update your audience/friends/fans with things ANYTHING to keep you in peoples minds. A small blog/article with photos showing you jamming/recording etc I love Chaos Divine and am glad for their success, but I cant help but fell they've lost a bit of momentum after the AHMA win by not doing much (although i know there are many factors involved here)