Cmon Rowland you practically live in another state yet you still seem to manage to get down for gigs not to mention organising them.
Yeah fair enough
I don't have kids or a 9-5 job though. While I know a lot of people do have that, and still manage to regularily attend gigs, I also know a few metalheads who are unable to make it out as offten as they'd like. They still do from time to time though, but it can be tricky all the same.
However, if the guy has no intention on going to gigs, then that's the end of it. Some bands sound better live, some sound better on recordings. We can still give recommendations for each, without abusing him. Hopefully, he'll like the music enough to want to see some of it live, but until then, bagging him wont help draw him out.